Speak Life Over Them

Have you ever realized you were trying to fix something with good intentions… but the wrong tools?

That was me, not too long ago.

My wife was sharing some deep and personal struggles: anxiety, insecurity, and questions about her worth and identity. I listened. I cared. But instead of praying with her or speaking God’s truth over her, I did what a lot of husbands do, I tried to explain her way out of it. I thought logic would help. I offered advice. But it fell flat.

And honestly, it convicted me.

I was speaking from my head when she needed words rooted in the Spirit. That realization changed everything.

What This Series Is About

This 2-part blog series, Speak Life Over Them, is for husbands and wives who want to intentionally use prayer and Scripture to lift each other in love. It’s for couples who recognize the spiritual battles we face in marriage and want to be better equipped to fight with their spouse, not just for them.

One post is written for husbands: how to pray for and speak life over your wife, especially when she’s tired, overwhelmed, or questioning who she is.

The other is for wives: how to intercede for and speak truth over your husband, especially when he’s feeling the weight of pressure, temptation, or spiritual fatigue.

Each post will include:

• Real struggles our spouses face, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally
• Biblically grounded encouragement to reshape how we see and speak
• Written prayers and Scripture-based affirmations tailored to those struggles
• Prayer prompts to help you put it into practice

Why This Matters

What we say, and what we don’t say, shapes our homes.

If we don’t cover each other with truth, the enemy is more than happy to fill that silence with lies.

I believe God has called each of us to be more than providers or supporters in marriage, we are spiritual encouragers and protectors. Our words carry weight. And Scripture gives us everything we need to speak life into the one we love most.

Whether your marriage is thriving, struggling, or somewhere in between, this series is for you. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being present, prayerful, and intentional.

Prayer Prompt

Ask the Lord to show you one area your spouse is struggling in that they may not even be talking about. Then pray this simple prayer:

“God, show me how to speak life over them today, not my opinions, but Your truth. Help me cover their heart with Your Word and love them the way You do.”

Next up:
👉 Speak Life Over Her 👉 Speak Life Over Him

…just a thought.

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